What is your first name, occupation, and role (or roles) you most identify with?
Meleyna, mother+writer

What is the most positive thing about being a woman in 2020?
There are a lot of ways to be a woman--the definition has changed a lot. There are negatives to that, but overall it's a positive.

What is the hardest thing about being a woman in 2020?
We are exhausted. While the definition of womanhood has expanded, the old entries haven't been erased. We are expected to do it all. (Not necessarily just by society, but by ourselves and each other.) We are on, all of the time, in so many different capacities.

When did you first notice that society treated men and women differently?
To be honest, I never paid any attention to it until I had my daughter (after I had my son). I certainly knew it was going on, but never allowed myself to get upset about it until I realized how differently my son and daughter were treated. Once my eyes were opened I was able to see how unequal things had been for me my entire life. It can be difficult to see injustice when you're so heavily immersed in it. I never had an advocate on my side. Motherhood completely changes your perspective and priorities.

How do you maintain your resiliency in these times? 
It's my job as a mother to give my kids experiences, education, perspectives I wasn't privileged to have. I can't give up on them.

Why do you think past movements haven't moved the needle for women?
It's all incremental. The beginnings of the feminist movement paved the way for today's intersectional approach. It all builds on itself, even if we sometimes have to take steps back, readjust priorities, or broaden our goals. The growth made while working towards a desired result is significant and shouldn't be discounted.

Do you think the current movement will be the one to change things for future generations?
If it's not us, I truly believe in the ones that follow us. I have so much hope for Generations Z and Alpha. I really believe their attitudes towards gender and identity will significantly impact the culture of adulthood and even the culture of families.

What needs to happen for us to move forward?
Hone in on our boys. Empowering our girls was the first step, but they need a resistance free space to fly free of fear. It's not enough to teach girls not to back down, be heard, take up space. A woman's default shouldn't be to fight. We need to stop the cycle of toxic masculinity and reframe the way this next generation of men sees themselves. Giving women the support they needs helps them overcome barriers, but we need to actually address the cause of inequality.

What can women do to make it better for other women?
It is impossible to know everyone's stories and struggles. Withhold judgement. Use any privilege you may have to lift up others.

What can men do to make it better for women?
Be proactive. Don't ask me how to do better, how you can help. Take the initiative and educate yourself. We are already bearing the consequences of your, at best, ignorance; it is not our burden to educate you. We are tired. Teach yourself and teach your children. It will be uncomfortable, but it's because you've been too comfortable for too long. Do your part to make room for others. It's not enough just to "mean well." You have to do the work.